Hi Oma
please share my story.I have been married for 4years and i have 3 girls but ever since I had my last girl,my husband have not been happy because he wants a boy.His attitude and character has changed towards me and my mother in law is not even helping matter.They are all telling me that they want a male child.Recently,I found out that my husband is expecting a male child outside our marriage and he said he is going to marry the lady so he can claim the son fully.That’s the condition the lady gave him.Oma I can’t accept that and the worst thing is I can’t even leave because I have nothing doing for myself.I’m just a house wife because this man said I shouldn’t work and that he will provide everything I need which he was doing until my last girl.

I told my mum and she said I have to manage it because no marriage is easy and men can marry second wife if they want.And where do I start from if I leave?My husband is the one that takes care of her as well.If I leave,all that will stop.I’m confused,I have cried and I have prayed.My husband still treats me like I’m not his wife.Please what should I do?Should I just move on and accept that he can marry a second wife or leave?and if I leave,where do I even go or start from?
Oma please I need help because this is the only man I know,and I didn’t even know he was having an affair outside our marriage.My kids are still little and I don’t even want to leave them with another woman
Please what should I do?